Yesterday afternoon, I had the privilege of sitting down with a group of about ten people to talk about the practice of raising Black children, drawing from my recent research on dual-enrolled homeschooled African American children and my experience as a parent and educator. The participants included Black mothers, a father, an uncle, and grandparents. They shared their powerful stories as advocates for their children within their schools and two moms- mothers to newborns– shared their concerns of how to prepare their schooling journey with their new babies with so many overwhelming options to choose from. Our conversation revolved around supporting our gifted children, how to mobilize other parents within our communities and what some of our challenges have been on our parenting journey.
I was able to briefly share my recommended book list which I share below, with an additional book included based on the rave reviews from parents from yesterday’s round-table discussion. Be sure to add your own recommendations in the comment section.
The Warrior Method, Updated Edition: A Parents’ Guide to Rearing Healthy Black Boys
By Raymond Winbush, PhD
Face it. There are certain challenges that parents of Black boys endure that few environments prepare them for. Dr. Winbush explores the ways parents can support their sons in a society that openly rejects their humanity. The Warrior Method offers a “program designed for parents and teachers to help black boys become strong, self-reliant men.”
Spare the Kids: Why Whupping Children Won’t Save Black America
By Stacy Patton, PhD
The controversy will never end regarding whether to spank or not spank your child. What Dr. Patton does is bypass the controversy and offer a historical look at how whipping a child became a thing in the first place. Deconstructing the power paradigm of corporal punishment and presenting research indicating the psychological impact on young minds and bodies, Dr. Patton presents an informative read that advocates on behalf of the mental and physical welfare of children and families.
The Developmental Psychology of the Black Child
By Dr. Amos Wilson
Dr. Wilson said that if you are to do the right thing by your children, you are to study them and teach them their history. He said that psychology reflects a people’s history and experience. You can watch many videos of Dr. Wilson giving lectures before his death, like this one. I highly recommend also reading text by this great man who offered useful insight into the psycho-social development process of Black children.
Salvation: Black People and Love
By bell hooks
How do we learn how to love our children? We love as we have been loved. Author bell hooks writes this delicate offering that packs a wallop of honesty and truth, forcing us to confront our patterns of (un)loving.
Teaching to Trangress: Education as the practice of freedom
By bell hooks
This text was an eye-opening exploration for me as both a parent and educator. I was forced to reflect on how am I educating my daughter and my students in ways that they, in turn, actualize freedom in their everyday. Inspired by the transformative work of Paolo Freire, author of Pedagogy of the Oppressed, hooks, through autoethnography, shares her own journey as a teacher that has led her to understand how teaching can become liberatory practice.
How to Raise a Wild Child
By Scott D. Sampson
I haven’t read this book yet, but, two families present last night at my talk shared the ways this book offered ways to integrate nature into your parenting practice. One of the things I find very astonishing is the disconnect many of the young people I work with have with the natural world. Parents shared with me that the book offers ways to use nature as math manipulatives, conversation starters and critical thinking prompts.
We’re Born to Learn: Using the Brain’s Natural Learning Process to Create Today’s Curriculum
By Rita Smilkstein
This book was assigned as a textbook in one of my doctoral courses a couple of years ago and I recommend it now whenever given a chance. I utilize some of her suggestions within my classroom for the college courses I teach. Linking the way that our brain neurons work to how we learn, Dr. Smilkstein, a neuroscientist, offers invaluable suggestions on how to optimize retention of information and synthesizing of information.
From the Browder File
By Tony Browder
This was one of the first reading textbooks I assigned my 5th grader when we returned to homeschooling more than six years ago. Using it as a tool to discuss history and culture, it gave her context on how to write and read critical analysis while introducing her to ideas she was not apt to receive within a traditional school classroom. The late renowned scholar Asa Hilliard wrote the foreword to the book, saying about the book, “There is no amount of information alone which can correct all the problems…but, a large part of what we must do is to get our memories back in tact and regain our orientation. Brother Browder’s thought-provoking information” moves us from “disintegration to reintegration for our people”.
By Malcolm Gladwell
Ever wondered what that special something was that made some people seem more successful that others? Malcolm Gladwell, through interviews, observation and critical analysis offers a perspective on how indicators of success are measurable and not quite what you think. Some of the information may impact decisions on when to enroll your child in school, impact choices you will make when networking or choosing what resources are close by. One of my favorite books by Gladwell that I reference often.
No BS (Bad Stats): Black People Need People Who Believe in Black People Enough Not to Believe Every Bad Thing They Hear About Black People
By Ivory A. Toldson
If you have ever agreed with the statement that there are more Black men in jail instead of in college, then this book might be the first book you need to purchase from this list. Dr. Toldson has compiled his essays into this informative book that debunks a lot of the faulty information that we have heard often about Black people in regards to education, family, and cultural heritage. Unapologetic in his assertions, Dr. Toldson offers in-depth reference lists at the end of each essay for further reading.
What books would you add to this list? Add them in the comments section.
Khadijah Z Ali-Coleman is founding editor of So Our Youth Aspire, an online resource since 2006. She is a homeschooling mom, researcher and educator currently serving as the 2020 Scholar-in-Residence at the Prince George’s African American Museum and Cultural Center. A homeschooling parent, she will be releasing a book soon based on her research on dual-enrolled African American home-schooled children.