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’13 Reasons Why’ Season 3 Has a Problematic New Character

If you are the parent of anyone over the age of 11 years-old, chances are you are well aware of the Netflix series 13 Reasons Why (stylized for television as TH1RTEEN R3ASONS WHY). This melodrama debuted in 2017, produced by former teen star Selena Gomez and based on the book by Jay Asher. The initial story dealt with the suicide of one of the main characters and the television series sparked a lot of conversation revolving around the way suicide was depicted. After the first season, the very heavy topic of teen suicide has been replaced by the very heavy topic of rape, becoming the focus for both second and third season. This article has significant spoiler details, so let this be your spoiler alert to not read further if you haven’t already watched the third season yet. If you have watched it, your comment is encouraged.

New character Amorowat Anysia “Ani” Achola played by Grace Saif (center) flanked by series regulars Dylan Minnette , Brandon Flynn and Ross Butler.

New Character Awkwardly Inserted

So, if you have stayed with this dramatic series to the third season, you most likely have grown a fondness, or at least familiarity, with the story’s main characters led by main character Clay Jensen, played by Dylan Minnette. Minnette returns for season 3, looking painfully concerned as usual and joined by other cast regulars including Christian Navarro as Tony Padilla, Alisha Boe as Jessica Davis, Brandon Flynn as Justin Foley, Miles Heizer as Alex Standall, Ross Butler as Zach Dempsey, Justin Prentice as Bryce Walker and Devin Druid as Tyler Down. Notably absent, or at least not as prominent as in past seasons are Michele Selene Ang as Courtney Crimsen, a prominent character in the first two seasons and Ajiona Alexus as Sheri Holland who was prominent in season two. Only Ang is seen briefly in a few scenes while we don’t see Alexus at all. But, a new character was introduced this third season, practically becoming the protagonist of the show, leaving many of us baffled and confused.

The new character, Ani, played by newcomer Grace Saif, doesn’t enter with any introduction. She opens as narrator and is prominently placed front and center, a new girl who has been in town for eight months. She is familiar with each character, speaks cryptically about the unraveling mystery and suspiciously references past happenings as if she was present when they took place. What is most unclear and never really becomes clear is how she is able to speak with familiarity regarding the town’s secrets regarding Bryce Wilson and his tendency to behave as a serial rapist. It is weird that she knows so much about his history because she never behaves as if it makes a difference when she interacts with him.

Ani is actively engaged in humanizing Bryce throughout the show. She questions the other characters about their suspicious ways and possible motives to want to see serial rapist and bullying Bryce Walker killed. She engages in sexual activity with said serial rapist and plays endless mind games with Clay Jensen who is as hopelessly smitten with her as he was with Hannah Baker. Ani is contradictory, confusingly involved in a mystery that has nothing to do with her and loyal to a group of people through the most contrived explanation possible.

Ani became the person to voice the conflated idea that there are two sides to every story.

Bryce Walker Didn’t Need an Advocate

Ani became the person to voice the conflated idea that there are two sides to every story. She was presented to show that, yes, Bryce Walker is a wealthy white male who believed he was entitled to do whatever he wanted to anyone he wanted, yet, somewhere, deep, deep, deep, down inside, he could be loving and respectful of the teen-aged daughter living in his house with the nurse paid to take care of his grandfather. She was intelligent in every way, we were told (in one scene, the teacher remarks she did not need the review for an upcoming test due to her progress in class), but, somehow, her intelligence was not matched with empathy or consideration for her so-called friends who she casually betrayed regularly with her trysts with Bryce even after knowing that he was responsible for raping her new so-called best friend, Jessica Davis.

Ani’s disruptive presence was amplified for me because she was a Black character. It was very disturbing for me to see these contradictions portrayed as a Black person when the other Black characters (other than bi-racial Alisha Doe) in the show had been written off or seen in very small doses (Derik Luke as counselor Kevin Porter made a brief appearance in a confusing capacity which was very odd given that he was fired in the previous season). It made me uncomfortable seeing a young Black girl engage in a sexual relationship with a character who is a rapist, rallying behind him and his questionable humanity, lying to her mother to spend time with him, lying to her friends to spend time with him, and behaving consistently untrustworthy, irrational and suspiciously. With the current culture of rape survivors speaking up and out, with films like the recent Surviving R. Kelly documentary breaking the silence on the exploitation and violence against young Black girls, and push-back against society’s tendency to over-sexualize Black women and romanticize historically predatory relationships (i.e. slavery tropes, Venus Hottentot, etc.), this casting choice seemed like a step backward. Honestly, however, I think the character, even if she was cast with a white actress, is a step backward in storytelling. Ani’s contrived presence is a distasteful example of how we don’t need apologists for rapists– whether through our fictional storytelling or in real life. If the series continues life with a fourth season, here’s hoping they do a better job with depicting challenging topics in a way that does not devolve into disappointing apologist tropes.

Getting Started Homeschooling: Is a Co-Op for me?

My first up-close and personal observation of homeschooling — where a child was not enrolled in traditional schooling and the learning experience was solely curated by the parent– was when my mother decided to homeschool my brother who was in middle school. This was in the mid-1990’s. He had been in a Montessori magnet program in his Maryland school since all K-6 grade. After 6th grade, she had put him in a private Montessori school, but, was disappointed by some of the racist antics she observed by the director of the school and my brother’s teacher and pulled him out. She knew that middle school was a tricky time for children—both boys and girls—and decided to spend his 8th grade year as his teacher. Please note, I am the oldest of five children, all girls and one boy. My mother did not have a sense of urgency in choosing homeschooling for the rest of us as she did my brother. And, it makes sense.

Black families are choosing to homeschool because of environmental factors that range from punitive discipline to perceived violence and generally unsafe environments.

In general, public schools are less forgiving of the behaviors displayed by boys of color as they are of white children and girls. A new study found that Black boys and students with disabilities are the most vulnerable to punitive discipline tactics within public schools. In my work as a scholar of trends in African American homeschooling patterns, I am consistently finding literature that indicates that Black families are choosing to homeschool because of environmental factors that range from punitive discipline to perceived violence and generally unsafe environments. And, so, when moving your child from a perceived unsafe environment, you naturally want to find and create a safe space for your child to learn. With that mindset, you naturally might want to consider a homeschool cooperative as a foundational aspect of your homeschooling journey. This blog will explore what a co-op experience might look like and how to choose wisely.

What is a homeschool co-op?

A co-op is usually a group where the children and parents are both integral parts of the learning environment. Co-ops are generally started by a homeschooling parent or a group of homeschooling parents who decide to offer courses for their children to take together. Most co-ops hire outside contractors to teach the course and combine resources to pay the instructor. Some co-ops have the parents teach a course and waive costs if each parent is teaching a course. Some co-ops have membership fees in addition to the fees for the courses. Some don’t. A few co-ops are incorporated as nonprofits and receive grant funding that allows the courses to be free of charge to participants.

Some co-ops specialize in a discipline or academic focus like the Arts or STEM, while some co-ops specialize in a mindset such as Pan-African thought, Christianity, or College Prep. Some co-ops are only for a certain age group. Overall, co-ops are opportunities to meet other homeschooling families, provide your children with an opportunity to engage in socializing with other children their age and an opportunity for them to learn subjects you may not be equipped to teach them.

Learn what the mission of the homeschool co-op is and determine if it is compatible with your own

I have been part of co-ops that I learned were not aligned with my own mission statement despite the attraction of the title or academic focus. It can be discouraging at first, but, as you get better in understanding what your mission is as a home educator, you will get more discerning in what activities and groups you engage your child in. Learn what their mission statements are before settling solely on their title or age focus. I wrote an earlier blog post about writing mission statements.

Sometimes, you really don’t know if a co-op is compatible with your homeschooling goals until your child is already enrolled and engaged in co-op courses or activities. I realized that my personal learning experiences and my daughter’s personality and learning needs required a certain co-op experience. When I was a child, from an early age, my mother educated me at home me even though I attended public school. So, in a sense, she was homeschooling me. What that means is that she assigned me readings and engaged in cultural teachings in addition to the work I was responsible for in school. Her teachings focused on the global history of people of the African diaspora. By second grade, she had gotten a job at a Pan-Afrikan independent school as a pre-school teacher and was able to enroll me and my sister. She worked there for only two years before we moved to another city and enrolled again in public school. But, the foundation was already set for me. I had developed a lens in which I viewed the world, and it was from a perspective that was global, concerned about justice and equity and centered the experiences of people of the African diaspora.

As an adult, that is how I view the world around me and determine if a place is a fit for me. This is what we do as adults. Our experiences shape our perspectives. Yet, as a parent, it is not so cut and dry when making the determination on what is a fit for our children. Our children are individuals with unique experiences, needs and abilities. So, when considering a homeschooling co-op, you have to realize what is necessary for both you and your child and determine if the co-op meets those needs.

Our children are individuals with unique experiences, needs and abilities.

Assess if being part of a homeschool co-op adds or detracts from your child’s homeschool experience.

While, my daughter is an older homeschooling student now, I had to make these decisions when she was younger regarding whether a co-op was a fit or not. We had a lot of hit and misses. We tried co-ops that had certain academic focuses and found that the courses modeled a school environment that did not foster inquiry and synthesis and were flat out boring. We tried co-ops that had rigorous schedules that did not allow for my daughter and I to take our own field trips or engage in other activities which clashed with our mission. By the time she was in what would be her sixth grade year, we found a groove where we were doing mostly field trips and learning subjects at home taught by me or local courses at our local parks and recreation centers. When we attended co-op activities, it was usually for day trips or a course here and there. Once, I even taught for a co-op to give her an opportunity to engage with other kids for a bit before we went back to our preferred groove of intermittent co-op involvement.

Recently, I had to make a vital decision to allow my daughter to drop out of an experience she was part of with a homeschool co-op group. While the experience looked excellent on paper for a college application, my daughter was miserable participating in the experience and begged me each day if she could leave. She did not like being one of only three students over the age of 15 and after being exposed to college courses and a year of more self-directed study, she felt stifled. I had noticed she did not speak up or engage with the group and looked bored during most activities except for working with the writing coach. I let her drop out.

Less than a day later, she immediately latched on to a youth employment opportunity with our county that starts soon that will allow her to earn money, learn about something she is passionate about—horticulture—and gain skills that are transferrable to her end goal of having professional experience in horticulture and possibly majoring or minoring in it for college. Although, her first loves are writing and music production, she found something else that excited her and was aligned with our homeschool mission statement.

In closing, finding a homeschool co-op fit can be a rewarding fit. Keep in mind that nothing has to be permanent on your homeschooling journey. Your goal is to optimize your child’s unique learning experiences. Stay encouraged that you know what is best for your family’s homeschool journey and never be afraid to change course if necessary.

Khadijah Z. Ali-Coleman is a homeschooling mother, a multi-media strategist and professional creative who has built an expansive interdisciplinary career as a professional in higher education, media, student development and the arts.  You can join her mailing list and register for her courses for homeschooling families at

Are you homeschooling an African American child who also takes courses at a community college? If so, consider having your child participate in this study for a $25 VISA Gift Card.

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